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November 29, 2015

business future uncertain?“Terry my boy, what do you think?”

There it was, finally, the question I was waiting for from my brilliant but mercurial multi-multi-millionaire boss.

I had been pondering the answer for several weeks. We were working on an important project in the fall of 1990, and there was a problem, one demanding some out-of-the-box thinking.

As the Project Manager, I had many hours of meetings with all the key players involved, and diligently forged a consensus on a proposed course of action – so we could present it to the boss with a united front.

With all that work and discussion completed, my confidence high, and with several of my colleagues around me for support, I took a deep breath, and started to answer his question.

It didn’t take too long to realize that I had just stepped onto a land mine, and it was about to explode.

“My God man, that is the most insane idea I have ever heard – how could you possibly think I would like it?”, he said.

I stammered for a couple of moments, regained my composure, and started to explain myself. For two seconds.

My boss pointed at the person next to me and exclaimed , “Mr. _____, don’t you think that’s the stupidest idea you’ve ever heard??”

“Oh yes sir, it most certainly is”, said the person who a mere 5 minutes earlier was in absolute agreement with me.


My balloon deflated. That confidence was now totally gone. I felt about two inches tall.

Just because somebody asked me “What do you think?”.

It was all downhill from there. After another 5 minutes of butt chewing, I was done. In subsequent meetings I simply clammed up, and just dealt in facts, never offering up any strong opinions about anything.

I became a “Yes Man”.

Eventually (and mercifully) I left that job, but not without learning a very valuable lesson about asking someone’s opinion:

You have to really want to hear the answer, AND with an open mind.

Or else, what SHOULD be one of the best things a leader can ask can easily become a dangerous weapon of destruction.

I know, it’s leadership 101, right? Asking teammates what they think is one of those feelgood tools that implies inclusion, concern, collaboration, openness, and, if really used correctly, humility (i.e. “I don’t know all the answers“).

So for most leaders who have been through any kind of training, or read any kind of leadership books or manuals, it feels like a “slam dunk” win to sit in a meeting and ask that question.

Nothing says “I’m practicing good leadership, see?” more than asking for an opinion. You can literally see that on the faces of some people when they do it.

But here’s the really big catch – you have to really WANT another opinion. You have to have an open mind, even if your views have already hardened.

And you certainly can’t trash it almost immediately, with prejudice. And then force everyone else to trash it too, for good measure.

The real danger is in how YOU respond, or don’t respond. You don’t get the “credit” just for asking the question. If it’s just an excuse to ridicule, or you show no real intention to absorb, comprehend, consider, or even just LISTEN and acknowledge the full opinion, you are way way better off just not asking for it.

Otherwise you will confuse, alienate, and anger your teammates, and deflate their willingness to contribute or go out on a limb in any appreciable way.  All in the name of trying to “act” like a leader and asking for an opinion you didn’t want.

Recognize the dangers here as I have (painfully), and don’t turn what should be one of the best questions you’ll ever ask into the most dangerous question of all. Please.

Lead well!


HAVANA, Cuba — John Kerry, the first American secretary of state to visit Cuba in 70 years, called on Friday for the Cuban government to do more to improve relations during a speech here celebrating the opening of the American Embassy.

“The president has taken steps to ease restrictions on remittances, on exports and imports to help Cuban private entrepreneurs, on telecommunications, on family travel, but we want to go further,” Mr. Kerry said under a baking sun.

“Just as we are doing our part, we urge the Cuban government to make it less difficult for their citizens to start businesses, to engage in trade, access information online,” Mr. Kerry added. “The embargo has always been something of a two-way street. Both sides need to remove restrictions that have been holding Cubans back.”

Mr. Kerry’s remarks highlighted an issue that has often been overlooked in the debate over the Obama administration’s decision to restore diplomatic relations with Cuba: Many of the steps that the United States is taking to encourage political and economic change here will fall short unless the Cuban government makes reciprocal moves.

Kerry in Havana

Source: New York Times

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Careen Carlton


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Coming soon: The End of Malice

Posted: November 21, 2014 in Uncategorized

Gospel Music for your Art and Soul

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Make sure to get your copy of my first book, “My Heart – The Story of Broken and Healed”

Now available on Amazon and or directly from Careen Carlton

Also visit my page on and get your e-copy

Do you want an autographed copy? Let me know!

Coming soon: The End of Malice

The Ethan Hallmark Many are the Wonders film debuted a new format for select I am Second films. Here’s a sneak peek of the trailer for I am Second’s next Second Story special, The End of Malice, which will be released Spring, 2015. Stay tuned in coming days for how you can help this become I am Second’s most impactful film ever.

Hundreds of Students Start
Small Groups

Backpacks blockade the hallways of the middle school, as more than 200 students come together for their I am Second groups. This year, these small groups have spread throughout other high schools and middle schools. What ignited this wildfire? Read more below.

EBONY Magazine

recognizes 17 year old Jekalyn Carr as one of The 2014 EBONY Power 100!


On November 19, in Los Angeles, EBONY Magazine will recognize the very best of the very best in Black America at an intimate celebration called– The EBONY Power 100 Gala.  On that list Jekalyn Carr is one of EBONY Magazine honorees. She will attend this event in LA along with many other notable actors, musical artist, business moguls, pioneers etc.. such as Beyonce, Steve Harvey, Pharrell Williams and many more.   Jekalyn received her first stellar at the age of 16 and most recently released her second national recording album entitled “It’s Gonna Happen”.  She has been said to be a part of a very distinctive few people to have two national recordings out before the age of 18.  Jekalyn is inspiring both the secular and the christian community with her works.  Be sure to look out for more details as this event take place.


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(CNN):  The “kill switch,” a system for remotely disabling smartphones and wiping their data, will become standard in 2015, according to a pledge backed by most of the mobile world’s major players.

Apple, Google, Samsung and Microsoft, along with the five biggest cellular carriers in the United States, are among those that have signed on to a voluntary program announced Tuesday by the industry’s largest trade group.

All smartphones manufactured for sale in the United States after July 2015 must have the technology, according to the program from CTIA-The Wireless Association.

Advocates say the feature would deter thieves from taking mobile devices by rendering phones useless while allowing people to protect personal information if their phone is lost or stolen. Its proponents include law enforcement officials concerned about the rising problem of smartphone theft.

“We appreciate the commitment made by these companies to protect wireless users in the event their smartphones are lost or stolen,” said Steve Largent, president and CEO of CTIA. “This flexibility provides consumers with access to the best features and apps that fit their unique needs while protecting their smartphones and the valuable information they contain.”

HTC, Motorola, Nokia are among the other smartphone makers who have signed up, along with carriers AT&T, Verizon, T-Mobile, Sprint and U.S. Cellular.

The feature would let a phone’s owner erase contacts, photos, e-mail and other information, and lock the phone so it can’t be used without a password.

The feature, which will be offered at no cost to consumers, also will prevent the phone from being reactivated without an authorized user’s consent. The data would be retrievable if the owner recovers the phone.

Some phone makers already include the ability to remotely wipe phones. In Apple’s latest mobile operating system, iOS 7, a feature called Activation Lock lets users prevent their phones from being reactivated even if they’re reset.

The new pledge marks a reversal for wireless carriers, who have resisted making the kill-switch feature mandatory. Industry representatives have said they fear hackers exploiting remote-kill technology, while critics accuse the industry of not wanting to lose revenue from replacing and activating stolen phones.

In Minnesota, the state legislature could pass a mandatory kill-switch bill as early as next week.

Oregon state Sen. Bruce Starr, president of the National Conference of State Legislatures, said his group “applauds today’s announcement unveiling the wireless industry’s commitment to reduce the number of smartphone thefts each year by providing anti-theft tools on future devices.”

“This voluntary effort serves as another positive illustration of the wireless industry adapting to address consumer needs through self-regulation,” he said.

But an optional deal didn’t go far enough for others.


Have a Blessed Christmas

Posted: December 25, 2013 in Uncategorized

Careen Carlton

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The fact of this is spoken by a factivist. Bono uses facts to tell us about the changes and the things that are still to be changed in the world to make it a better place.

Though I am not in a state to palate his sexual undertones and other religions notes, his points of feasible alleviation of the horror that exists in this world is precision. It must however be mixed with more than just monetary capabilities, and be infused with human morality and our humanness.  We must more than mention the connotation of God, and include Him in the action.

An incorporation of the power of prayer will amaze many who just see this end time as a period in history, but recognize the prophesy.  The inclusion of Christ who was murdered to shed His blood for causes just like this one will shake the global boots of the demon leader called Satan.  This inclusion should not be eminently visible, just actively prominent.

Take a look and listen to Bono. We can help.  Join in and share Christ in this movement.

Here is the video: